As women we can be our own worst enemies. We are bombarded daily with images of "perfect" bodies. Lingerie models, beautiful singers and celebrities. Unfortunately, the list is endless. It's no wonder we soon begin to loathe our bodies. How can we possibly live up to these unrealistic physiologies? The answer to me is quite clear. It has to come from within.
To begin with, you have to realize that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Or, to put it another way, you have to change your own perception of what beauty is. You must stop viewing yourself as substandard. You have to stop being so hard on yourself. Don't buy into the mainstream beauty ideals. Every country and culture has different viewpoints on this. What is seen as beautiful to someone in Africa might be completely different to someone in Asia. The same goes for every individual and context. What you perceive to be too large is quite enviable to another person. What you think is not enough is considered acceptable on a runway somewhere else. It varies completely in every context on every continent, so why would you want to reduce it, enlarge it, or eliminate it? It doesn't make sense.
Here's the thing.
You are beautiful just the way you are. That's the truth. You are worthy with all of your lumps and bumps. You are lovable. You don't have to change for anyone else. You don't have to live up to societal "norms". If one person doesn't value you, someone else will. One person's flaws will be another one's treasures. Don't focus on your own perceived flaws. Focus on your own brand of beauty. The entire package that someone will adore when they get to know you. Trust that you are beautiful and desirable. Feel it within you. Radiate it outside of you. Make it your very own "persona".
Believe in the beauty of you.