So many people, women in particular, speak about feeling "invisible" after certain milestones. I read it on social media and overhear it in boutique fitting rooms. Women over 50 complain about it most often and I feel their pain whenever I am privy to it. What causes women to feel so unworthy and insignificant after a certain age? Is there anything one can do to feel alive and relevant again?
In today's global world it's not surprising so many people feel this way. The Internet has significantly broadened our perspectives and made us aware how youth-driven society is. Women really feel pressured to maintain a youthful appearance as long as possible. How do you "love the skin you're in" in a social environment that idolizes perfect bodies and flawless complexions rather than life experiences and accomplishments? How do we feel even remotely significant in such a superficial global environment?
Women feel invisible for a variety of other reasons as well. Negative social conditioning within families, menopausal weight gain, and age discrimination in the workplace are just a few. Low self-esteem also factors into it. In spite of all this though there are things you can do to tune it out, feel good about yourself, and feel more socially relevant.
Get Out of Your Self-Imposed Wardrobe Box
I'm sure you know what I mean. The box you put yourself in! I totally get how easily you can fall into the trap of wearing only what social media dictates is "age-appropriate" but sadly, it's not working because you feel tired and old and completely restricted in your fashion choices! Why not instead go a little riske and shake things up a bit? Wear some things you've never even considered! What have you got to lose? Why not wet your toes in one of those "younger person's" stores to see if there are any items you could actually see yourself in? How about trying some colour tones you thought were better suited on a young person? Feel how rejuvenating it is to see yourself strutting about in something totally different and fabulous!
Get a New Do!
Some women are guilty of wearing the same hairstyle throughout their lives, or for several decades. Just like actress Lisa Rinna who has been called out on it, they claim it's their "signature style". Others proclaim their coif is a "classic" to try to sway everyone away from their obvious complacency. Unfortunately it's one of the reasons you "fade to black". People tend to look right through you because it's what you've always had. My advice? Stir the pot! Go and get the latest hairstyle magazine or do some surfing through the Pinterest app for this year's trends. If you've always worn it short, try growing it out a bit. Never gone short? Try cutting it! It's amazing how a new hairstyle can give you a lift and get you noticed again! Experienced stylists are a great resource. They can recommend a style that perfectly suits the shape of your face. Don't be afraid to try something completely different and follow their advice!
Get a Makeup Makeover!
This is another way people find themselves in a rut. They have used the same products and techniques over and over again since they first learned how to put it on! The problem is they have aged and those products don't produce the same results. How do you remedy this? Book an appointment with a Makeup Artist and learn some new techniques! Or visit your local department store makeup counter and get some free advice. It is so worth the time to learn the techniques that will work for you right now, and give your face a whole new appearance that is sure to turn heads!
Socialize!
Even if you're not the type. If you've become somewhat of a hermit try expanding your social network! One of the best ways to feel significant is to contribute to a group. Or volunteer for a charity organization. Join a "Meetup" group. There are also dining clubs and cooking classes. Travel clubs. Fabulous 50's clubs. Recreation groups and hiking or biking events. Maybe there's something you've always been interested in trying but never had the time. It could be a group you considered joining long before life happened. Do it now! Take a chance! You might hit on something great and who knows? Maybe it will be life changing and you'll be really glad you did!
Sometimes all you need to do to feel visible is something completely different. Others will notice the change in you and that alone can make you feel significant! Be sure to check out my Pinterest page on your journey @ Bliss & Bling: Styling Youthfully for some incentives in creating a more youthful wardrobe that reflects your newfound lifestyle!
